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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 1:25 p.m. - Subject: Polyamorous Relationships |
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In case you’re not sure of the meaning
Quote Wiktionary: 1. Any of various practices involving relationships with multiple partners with the knowledge and consent of all involved.
I’m curious what other people’s thoughts and experiences are on the subject. I’m not talking about the one-time threesome sort of thing; more to the side of three people loving each other, maybe living together.
Another thing I’m thinking of is three people in a regular (as in frequency) sexual relationship, but they met at roughly the same time, so that it’s not just a couple that wants some spice on the side as well.
Personally, I think that polyamory should even be considered for inclusion in marriage laws. I like the idea of having that option as well; because sex is such a complex subject, and our accepted social structures probably can never handle it without oversimplifying it, branching out from the status quo feels like a good idea.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 1:45 p.m. - Subject: |
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wouldn’t this require all people involved in the relationship to be bi? unless there is some super-secret 3rd human gender(not a mix of the 2) hidden from the world?
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 1:52 p.m. - Subject: |
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Well if it’s three people, two of them would have to be bi, it all depends on the genders involved though. Getting past that though, what do you think of the phenomenon?
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 1:57 p.m. - Subject: |
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i think peope should be able to do anything that doesn’t hurt others, this includes polyamorous relationships, recreational drugs and whatever you want as long as it’s only you.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 2:00 p.m. - Subject: |
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Well I’m not even talking about society’s acceptance of it, I’m asking what you think about the subject. Could you picture yourself in one? Have you been in one? Do you think these relationships could last? Do you know anyone who’s been in a polyamorous relationship?
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 2:06 p.m. - Subject: |
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I know that I could never do it myself. I’ve already found the girl I’m spending my life with and I can’t picture myself with anyone else.
I think they should be allowed though. I’m with Spaghettifier. As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else it should be okay.
However, I don’t think this type of relationship would last. Humans are by nature competitive and I think that, at some point or another, one of the people would become jealous and try to keep the one person all to themselves.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 2:31 p.m. - Subject: |
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Quote: one of the people would become jealous and try to keep the one person all to themselves.
I disagree with this, the whole idea is that you love these people. I think that love, in many of these relationships, could overcome or simply eliminate the possibility of jealousy. Especially considering that you love both of these people. You don’t prefer one or the other, and hence you wouldn’t feel jealous. Now, you might feel left out if you have a job that makes you stay out of the house longer, which could lead to some difficulties, but that’s just a possible situation, not an inevitability.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 3:32 p.m. - Subject: |
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i thought you meant as in shul they be legal, no i do not think i can see myself in one, but we shall see what the future holds
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 3:38 p.m. - Subject: |
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...Loving someone doesn’t mean you can’t be jealous of them spending more time with someone else. If anything, it’s the exact opposite, the more you love them, the more jealous you get. I know I could never pull off anything like that, and frankly I strongly doubt anybody truly could.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 3:56 p.m. - Subject: |
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Quote: ...Loving someone doesn’t mean you can’t be jealous of them spending more time with someone else. If anything, it’s the exact opposite, the more you love them, the more jealous you get.
Maybe I’m completely wrong on this, but I think that if you have at least reason to believe they both love you, then jealousy wouldn’t be so much of an issue in a majority of cases. To me, I simply wouldn’t worry about the other two spending time together, as I don’t see much of a difference between that and someone I love spending time alone with their thoughts. Maybe I’m just no a very jealous person, but that’s my idea of it.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 4:49 p.m. - Subject: |
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Yeah i personally don’t think it would ever work, could you picture yourself as a 70 year old with 2 partners, I know i couldn’t. But thats just me, i don’t see any actual "Love" being involved. Like i can accept some being born Gay, thats just the way it goes but i see no real need to engage in Polymorous relations that go further than casual sex.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 7:00 p.m. - Subject: |
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Well I’ve come to the concept that people aren’t even "born" gay; it’s more of a learned behaviour than an innate one. One way I’ve heard this concept expressed is, say you’re looking at a girl and getting really turned on, seeing she’s got that skater chick look you like, how her hair’s just the right way, and then you realize all of a sudden, that it’s a guy. What if you keep looking? What if you allow yourself to continue to get turned on? In this sense, and if you don’t have a while lot of reservations about the idea, then you could very well continue to get turned on. If you don’t have an "I am straight" or "I am gay" mentality to it, then really, it’s not so much what’s in their lap that matters as the actual attraction.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 7:06 p.m. - Subject: |
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This was on futurama once I remember. Some girl fry was dating turned out to have a bunch of boyfriends who all lived together.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 7:12 p.m. - Subject: |
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I could never do it. I would love just one girl, and I would only want to spend my life with one girl.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 7:37 p.m. - Subject: |
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Im the same Ecko. I could have multiple hoes to fuck with but not a group relationship. Jealousy would ensue.
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| Posted: Dec 05, 2008 10:52 p.m. - Subject: |
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Just when you think that you’re alright, I’m crawling out from the inside. I’d never hurt anyone, I never listen at all.
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| Posted: Dec 06, 2008 2:52 a.m. - Subject: |
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I thought this was called polygamy...
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| Posted: Dec 06, 2008 2:56 a.m. - Subject: |
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polygamy is being married to more than one person, but usually involves all the women being submissive to the man, not a mutual relationship between the three or more.
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| Posted: Dec 06, 2008 3:03 a.m. - Subject: |
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^The way it should be!
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| Posted: Dec 06, 2008 6:17 a.m. - Subject: |
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^Exactly
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