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Power Egg
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:12 p.m. - Subject: Holy shit! |
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I think my mum is cheating on my dad...
I found evidence on the computer.. and now she is out and wont tell me where she is (cause she needs to take me to work)
Wtf... I’m in shock.. They have been together since mum was 17.. mums now 44.
What the fuck do I do? Tell dad or ignore it? It’s going to destroy my family.
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AIM YIM
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:15 p.m. - Subject: |
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You should fuck your dad. It would only be fair.
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:17 p.m. - Subject: |
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Yeah good one.
I’m in fucking shock. Been a happy family for years and this happens? WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK?
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:23 p.m. - Subject: |
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A good family life can be tied to a good income. At $100/lay, you’re talking some serious cash if her typical client is a minute man.
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'of the Universe'
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:24 p.m. - Subject: |
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Black mail her.
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:25 p.m. - Subject: |
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Black mailing just does not work with her.
I’m just shocked.. it’s like what the fuck? I want to slap her and call her a slut.
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'of the Universe'
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:29 p.m. - Subject: |
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How about you confront her.
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:31 p.m. - Subject: |
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I honestly don’t know. I mean is it my position to do so? There is only me and my sister, I’m almost 20 and my sister is 16 early 17.. I’,m more worried about my sister and how it will affect her.
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'of the Universe'
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:35 p.m. - Subject: |
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The magic advice calculator is finished for the evening.
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:51 p.m. - Subject: |
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heavy shit... just leave some of your evidence laying around where only she can see it. when she picks it up and you are standing near, give here one of those "yeah i know wtf is up" looks with a little smirk.
this works 2 folds, you can gauge her reaction and use that to make your next move, or she will want to start conversing. either way you win unless she flips the fuck out and threatens to kill you for being a nosey cunt... that could be quite a relationship bummer for you and your mum.
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:52 p.m. - Subject: |
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*fold
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 9:58 p.m. - Subject: |
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Find concrete evidence, tell her to stop or you email it to your dad and everyone your mom associates with, including family and employers.
Also ask for some cash on top of that, and maybe a car, and some icecream.
Yeah...
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Power Egg
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| Posted: Sep 23, 2009 10:01 p.m. - Subject: |
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Thanks MP.
Although she could flip at me, but she left it up on her pc in plain view.
Meh mum and I don’t have a relationship really, I’m only here again till I can afford to move out.
I’m just worried about my little sister. She’s bringing this "friend" over in a few days to meet dad and us, but I’[m just going to be a right cunt to him.
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 1:32 a.m. - Subject: |
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Well, at least you don’t plan on being an entire cunt. I mean, since you’re only going to be the right (half?) cunt.
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 3:18 a.m. - Subject: |
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Just make sure your dad sees it.
That way it will all take care of itself.
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 5:46 a.m. - Subject: |
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First: You need conclusive proof that she really is. You can’t do anything until you know without a doubt what is going on.
Second: If you have that absolute proof, you have to make a choice about what to do. Your options include:
a) forget everything that is happening and hope it goes away.
b)confront your Mom with the evidence and tell her to stop immediately.
c) blackmail her. Make hints that you know what is going on and then ask politely for whatever it is that you want.
d) tell your dad and let him handle it.
e) wait until she really pisses you off then share the proof with everyone you know.
f) share the proof with RE.
g) go to a trusted adult (i.e. a family friend, a priest, a psychologist etc.)and ask for their advice.
Those are your options... GOOD LUCK!
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 6:46 a.m. - Subject: |
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I think you should either talk to the mother about it, or let it go. I definitely wouldn’t tell the father.
What exactly did you find on the computer?
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 6:50 a.m. - Subject: |
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are you sure that is what is going on?
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 9:24 a.m. - Subject: |
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Since I don’t know you very well or your mom at all, how could I really help you here? (For example, if your mom is getting even with your dad for cheating on HER, then exposing any of it might hurt your family a lot worse than ignoring it.) But I’ll give it a shot.
Revenge is only one reason she might be doing it--there are lots and lots of reasons why people double dip. If it was me, I would not do anything with that info until I knew the entire story.
I feel you when you say that you are concerned about your 16-year-old sister. Here’s where I may differ with the others, because I think that your mom fooling around and her leaving evidence of her possibly fooling around on a shared computer are actually two different issues.
The first issue is whether or not you have discovered an indiscretion on your mom’s part—that needs some investigation, if you are going to go anywhere with it. It’s a pretty serious game to make an accusation that could lead to a marriage breaking up, wouldn’t you agree? Serious games deserve serious strategy. Enough said on that score, I hope.
The second issue is that of her leaving her private stuff on a shared computer where her kids can see it. That’s something you can—and should, perhaps—do something about ASAP.
Don’t deal with the "cheating" issue until you know more, until it’s staring you in the face. Give your mom the benefit of the doubt and wait until you know for sure, or you could really fuck things up. "The road to hell is paved with good intentions," as the saying goes.
DO deal with the security issue as soon as you can. Approach your mother and say something like, "I found this, that, and the other thing on the computer where the younger kids can get into it. You should secure your information, or there might be trouble." Just say that, and nothing else.
If she is actually carrying on behind your dad’s back, that will induce her either to stop, or at least carry on more discreetly from that point forward. In any case, you will be sticking up for your sister and keeping her from getting involved, which is your stated priority.
I hope this helps. Good luck! xoxoxo
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| Posted: Sep 24, 2009 9:28 a.m. - Subject: |
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I know you and your mom don’t exactly get along real well, but give her a chance to explain herslf before you stir things up
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